Brothers Reveal Years Of Abuse
Victims Hope Others Come ForwardMar 22, 2004 | www.thechamplainchannel.com
For more than 25 years, Randy Metivier never told his parents and older brother that he was being molested by their parish priest.
What he didn't know was that his older brother, Ryan, was also a victim of the Rev. Joseph Maguire. Now, after Maguire pleaded guilty to sexual assault and was found guilty of additional charges, the brothers are telling their story, in the hope that other victims come forward.
Maguire, former pastor of St. Joseph's Church in Dover, N.H., pleaded guilty to eight counts of sexual assault Feb. 26. He was also found guilty of 28 additional charges involving three victims.
"It was tough," Randy Metivier said. "You dealt with it every day. You felt embarrassed about it, ashamed, guilty."
Randy Metivier didn't know that his brother was also racked with shame and guilt. They never told anyone that Maguire, their family priest, was molesting them. The story didn't come out until two years ago, when the family was contacted by the Attorney General's Office, which was looking into allegations against Maguire.
"I was about 9, and it ended when I was about 14," Randy Metivier said.
"When you are 9, 10, 12 years old, you are easily manipulated. You keep secrets better," Ryan Metivier said.
The brothers said the abuse lasted for years.
"When I was 14, I told him, 'Forget it,'" Randy Metivier said. "I fought over, am I straight or not? When I finally realized I was straight, I told him, 'Don't touch me again.'"
The brothers said Maguire would give them gifts and take them out to dinner, but he would also take them to a motel in downtown Dover, just down the street from the church.
"The whole time, I'd think, let's not go anyplace where we can be alone," Randy Metivier said. "You lived in fear the whole time you were with him."
Emotionally scarred, both men are now parents themselves. Through counseling and being honest with their own parents, they said they believe their lives are on the right track.
"There's the fear of embarrassment," Ryan Metivier said. "So that is why we decided to do this, so other people out there abused by anybody can speak out. You will always be in the dark until you bring it into the light."
Authorities said they believe Maguire had dozens of other victims. The Metivier brothers said they want as many people as possible to attend Maguire's sentencing hearing in May.